Weekly snapshots of family life in 2016
This past week was all about our 20th wedding anniversary. Twenty years, you guys?! It’s insane how that time just flew by. Richard and I talked a lot about a lot of the different stages we’ve gone through in life — from the early days when we were still so naive and pretty clueless about the world to where we are now, parents of two tweens and a dog who are all in a hurry to grow up.
Over the past week, I thought a lot about what I would say to the 26-year old me, about to start a new life and partnership with someone. What would be my advice? First, I’d say just relax and don’t try to do everything perfectly. You’ll make mistakes, he’ll make some as well but you live and you learn. I think that’s part of the fun being a couple anyway, growing and learning together from adversities. Plus, veering off the roadmap and the original plan sometimes takes you to a more interesting and colorful path where new discoveries are made.
Second, I’d tell my younger self to make sure that there’s quality conversation at the end of the day. It’s hard to focus on the other person after a long day when all you want to do is go to bed and unplug. But we owe it to our partners, and they it to us, to simply connect and listen at day’s end. A few minutes to chat, to laugh and catch up.
Third, I would tell the younger me to always make sure to put the marriage as equally important as other priorities, including children. Go out on date nights, take walks together, have drinks together when kids are sleeping. During our twilight years, when the kids are gone or when we’re retired and got all this crazy free time together, all we have is one another. We don’t want to wake up and suddenly realize that we no longer recognize or know the person we’re co-habitating with.
Happy week, everyone!